Not Settling For Less?

I've watched a video by a psychologist about the importance of not settling for less.

She said that you should follow your desires, not try to replace what you want with something easier to get.

For example, you shouldn't drink cheaper coffee if you want an expensive one.

This way, you train yourself to ignore your desires, and you end up losing motivation.

According to the psychologist, it works in relationships too.

She gave the example: you and your boyfriend are at a café, and he pays, but instead of ordering the expensive dish you'd like, you order something cheaper.

In this situation, there's a risk that he is with you only because you don't ask for much.

I disagree with the psychologist.

Certainly, desires are important, and you should enjoy your life and reward yourself, but not all of your desires are worth fulfilling.

I often want junk food.

Does it mean I should regularly follow this impulse?

According to the psychologist's logic, yes, it does.

Otherwise, I will get used to settling for less.

In reality, I would just harm my health.

I think it's a crucial skill for any adult to understand that actions have consequences.

Another necessary skill is making decisions based on your values.

If you value your health, you shouldn't eat fast food often.

Yeah, let's break up with anyone who doesn't want to fulfill all of our desires!

It's nonsense.

Relationships are about caring for each other, so don't treat your partner like he is a genie in a lamp.

It doesn’t mean you should ignore your needs, but you shouldn't neglect your partner either.

If he pays, you can ask what the budget for your dish is.

It would be a compromise, I think.

Not Settling For Less?

I've watched a video by a psychologist about the importance of not settling for less.

This way, you train yourself to ignore your desires, and you end up losing motivation.

According to the psychologist, it works in relationships too.

In this situation, there's a risk that he is with you only because you don't ask for much.

I disagree with the psychologist.

Certainly, desires are important, and you should enjoy your life and reward yourself, but not all of your desires are worth fulfilling.

I often want junk food.

Does it mean I should regularly follow this impulse?

According to the psychologist's logic, yes, it does.

Otherwise, I will get used to settling for less.

In reality, I would just harm my health.

I think it's a crucial skill for any adult to understand that actions have consequences.

Another necessary skill is making decisions based on your values.

If you value your health, you shouldn't eat fast food often.

The example about a boyfriend irritated me.

Yeah, let's break up with anyone who doesn't want to fulfill all of our desires!

It's nonsense.

It doesn’t mean you should ignore your needs, but you shouldn't neglect your partner either.

If he pays, you can ask what the budget for your dish is.